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Archetypes

12 Known Archetypes

Acording to Wikipedia: 

The origins of the archetypal hypothesis date back as far as Plato. Plato's ideas were pure mental forms that were imprinted in the soul before it was born into the world. They were collective in the sense that they embodied the fundamental characteristics of a thing rather than its specific peculiarities. In the seventeenth century, Sir Thomas Browne and Francis Bacon both employ the word 'archetype' in their writings; Browne in The Garden of Cyrus (1658) attempted to depict archetypes in his usage of symbolic proper-names. 


 

The concept of psychological archetypes was advanced by the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, c. 1919. In Jung's psychological framework, archetypes are innate, universal prototypes for ideas and may be used to interpret observations. A group of memories and interpretations associated with an archetype is a complex ( e.g. a mother complex associated with the mother archetype). Jung treated the archetypes as psychological organs, analogous to physical ones in that both are morphological constructs that arose through evolution.[6] At the same time, it has also been observed that evolution can itself be considered an archetypal construct.[7]

Jung states in part one of Man And His Symbols that:


My views about the 'archaic remnants', which I call 'archetypes' or 'primordial images,' have been constantly criticized by people who lack a sufficient knowledge of the psychology of dreams and of mythology. The term 'archetype' is often misunderstood as meaning certain definite mythological images or motifs, but these are nothing more than conscious representations. Such variable representations cannot be inherited. The archetype is a tendency to form such representations of a motif—representations that can vary a great deal in detail without losing their basic pattern.


Later in the 1900s, a Viennese psychologist named Dr. Ernest Dichter took these psychological constructs and applied them to marketing. Around 1939, he moved to New York and sent every ad agency on Madison Avenue a famous letter boasting his new discovery. He found that applying these universal themes to products promoted easier discovery and stronger loyalty for brands.[8]

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Mindful Parenting

Practice Mindful Parenting

 

Mindful Parenting

Use mindfulness techniques to take stress and anxiety out of raising kids

Juliann Garey

Cynthia Braun remembers all too well what weekday mornings used to be like at her house. Since her husband had to leave early for work, it was up to Braun, a pediatrician with a practice in Pleasantville, New York, to get Anika and Devon, then 6 and 3, up and dressed, give them breakfast, pack their lunches and get them to preschool. “Our morning routine just was just a lot of work,” she says. “Nobody was doing what they were supposed to be doing. They could care less about the time while I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to get everything done.”

It’s a familiar scenario for a lot of parents with school-age kids. And for parents of kids with issues like ADHD, transition times like getting to school or moving from one activity to another can be especially difficult. Another mom, Sandy Isaac, says that when not one but both of her kids, then 8 and 4, were diagnosed with ADHD, it was a lot to take in. She realized things at home had to change.

Both Braun and Isaac enrolled in Dr. Mark Bertin’s mindfulness-based parenting class. “I felt like I was not being as good a parent as I wanted to be and I wanted to figure out if mindfulness could give me a better perspective and some strategies to implement,” says Braun.

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Overwhelmed parents

Dr. Bertin, a developmental pediatrician who specializes in treating kids with issues like ADHD, autism and learning disabilities, says in general he runs a pretty traditional medical practice. But he’s been a practitioner of mindfulness for nearly 20 years. In 2007, he began offering Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Classes for parents of kids with and without special challenges. “Often when you have a kid with ADHD,” he says, “you have a very stressful family situation and I think one of the things that happens is that things get very focused on helping the children, which is fine except that the parents get stressed and overwhelmed.”

The largest section of Dr. Bertin’s book, The Family ADHD Solution, is devoted to mindfulness for parents because, he says, “parenting in general, but especially parenting kids with disabilities, is really, really stressful. And when it comes to ADHD, there’s research showing that parents are at a much greater risk for anxiety, depression and marital stress.”

Slow things down

Braun says through Dr. Bertin’s class she not only developed a mindfulness practice of her own (which includes guided mediation, body scan, and breathing exercises) but she learned that slowing things down, stepping back and observing her own reactions, gave her the perspective to effectively restructure her family’s morning routine. “I realized I was pushing them to do things really fast. He’s three, he wants to choose his own clothes, and if he puts it on backwards, I was realizing that’s okay. It’s okay for them to be mismatched. It doesn’t really matter if they have toothpaste on their T-shirts. Things don’t have to be a certain way. I’m going to make my morning slower. I’m going to wake them up earlier. I’ll have to get up earlier, but I want our mornings to start with a happy mood instead of all this stress and rushing.'”

Mindful mornings may be less efficient, but they’re more pleasurable. “What’s happening right now is all there is,” Braun adds. “Why make everybody unhappy? If we’re five minutes late to preschool it doesn’t change anything. What changes things is the frustration, and the stress that builds up and then everything unravels.”

Isaac says she learned from Dr. Bertin techniques to keep things from escalating when somebody isn’t on board with whatever the agenda is. “He brings a lot of insight into really taking the time to step back,” she says, “and looking at what creates that situation, and slowing people down.

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Set kids up for success

Slowing life down in general seems to be a common theme, something that’s simple but important for parents, especially parents of kids with ADHD and other disorders that involve difficult behaviors, to do: to take a breath and listen to what their children are trying to tell them with their behavior. “It makes you stop and think about how you’re running things as a parent and how you’re setting things up for success or not,” says Issac. “If you have two kids with this stuff going on and you make the routine of the day one where everyone is rushing, rushing, and you pack too much into it, there’s not enough downtime, then that’s just a recipe for making it worse.”

Parents, Issac says, often forget what their children need. “Because the other component to the whole thing is—and I don’t think I just speak for myself,” she says, “the parents are busy, busy people and wrapped up in whatever the day is, and also, this stuff runs in families.”

Related: Why Do Kids Have Trouble With Transitions?

Stress is contagious

When parents become stressed that stress becomes contagious; children know when their parents are tense and overwhelmed. In fact, according to Dr. Amy Saltzman, a holistic physician and mindfulness coach (and creator of the Still Quiet Place CDs for Young Children and Teens), “Data shows that the greatest source of childhood and adolescent stress is not school work, extracurricular activities, or peer pressure, but parental stress.” So being a good parent means learning to manage your own stress.

Dr. Elisha Goldstein, a psychologist who uses mindfulness in his Los Angeles practice, thinks parents often have an innate sense of inadequacy when it comes to their own children. When it comes to parenting mindfully, says Dr. Goldstein, “a lot of the work is about learning to make peace with our imperfections. Because we’re going to do things that are going to land our kids in therapy, we’re gonna do things that hurt our kids. We can beat ourselves up. But if, instead, we were able to make peace with our imperfections and begin to regulate our emotional state, we can be calmer and more present for our kids and cultivate some self-compassion.”

End the perfectionism

Ending the perfectionism can also set a good example for kids, observes Dr. Goldstein, whose mindfulness book The Now Effect: How This Moment Can Change the Rest of Your Life includes a parenting chapter. “Parents serve as role models for kids,” he says. “Kids are sponges. So at the end of the day that’s really good modeling for the kids because the kids are also going to be imperfect in their lifetime.”

For parents of kids with issues like ADHD, transition times can be especially difficult.

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There’s science to show that taking a deep breath and staying calm when your children are pushing you to the edge actually causes positive changes in the brain. Let’s say it’s the end of a long rainy Sunday and you’ve been stuck inside with three little kids. One child is picking on another, who in turn is crying, while the third spills juice all over the floor. “If you can just say to yourself in that moment, ‘This is chaos,’ ” Dr. Goldstein says, “not in an anxious or fearful way, but just name it, research shows us we turn the volume down on the amygdala, which is the fear circuit of the brain, and bring more activity to the pre-frontal cortex, so we can be more aware of what’s happening right now.

Create a safe environment

Your calm response helps kids calm down, too, he notes. “They say, ‘Okay, I can trust my parent to be in control, this is a safe environment.’ And they feel more secure and they thrive. So that’s another benefit of parents practicing it on their own.”

It seems there’s no one right way to parent mindfully. Happily, there are many right ways. Sometimes the smallest adjustment in a child’s schedule can change a whole family’s day-to-day life. And sometimes, Dr. Bertin says, “It’s as simple as practicing paying full attention to our kids, with openness and compassion, and maybe that’s enough at any moment.”


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